This will seem, to some people, so obvious, and yet so many people seem oblivious to the logic.
As your relationship with someone progresses, situations will arise where promises will be made. Over time as the promises are made your partner will get a sense of whether you are a promise keeper or a promise breaker.
If you are a promise keeper, you are trust worthy; if you break your promises, you can't be trusted.
This is baffling to some. They just don't get what the big deal is. But relationships are built on promises, every level of commitment is built on promises, and marriage is a legally binding contract full of promises. You promise your partner to be faithful (unless you are in an understanding poly-amorous relationship) and you promise to be supportive, you promise to look after the interests of your partner as well as your own, to remember important dates, and to do all the things that they see in other couples and think "I want that for myself."
If you get married, these promises are made in front of a church official or a registrar, friends and family, and for some of you, in front of God; you sign a contract as a legal declaration of your promises to one another.
If you ask someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, there is no contract or ceremony and the promises aren't spoken aloud; but there are unspoken promises, whether you know it or not, that lead to expectations. The only thing that might be said in reference to these unspoken promises, is to negate them; "This doesn't mean we're exclusive."
If you establish a reputation with your partner as a promise breaker, then how can you be trusted with other promises? Your word is dirt, the only way you can prove yourself is through your actions, and you just keep going, breaking promises.
You might think you don't make promises. You might even think you are a "man of your word" and that you "don't make promises you can't keep," (excuse the word "man" there, it's a more common phrase) but what you don't understand is that every time you say you're going to do something, be it housework, waking up at a certain time, or even the almighty bastard words "I'll do it in the morning," you are making a promise. You don't have to say the words "I promise" for it to be a promise. In fact, if people ask you to promise to do stuff like saying you will isn't a promise in itself, you already should know you are a promise breaker.
If your partner doesn't trust you even with stupid little things, it means you break all manner of promises.
You can't keep every promise, sometimes it just isn't possible. But when the excuses start to pile up, you're just making excuses. Sometimes you have to put someone else before yourself. If you promised to do the dishes in the morning, but you wake up feeling like shit; either go to the hospital if it's bad enough, or do the fucking dishes.
If you are a promise breaker, get a hold of yourself. Step up to the plate and keep your damned promises, or you will find yourself loosing the one you love to somebody else who will keep theirs.
Promise keepers, you are awesome. You make your partner feel safe and stress free. Keep it up.
As your relationship with someone progresses, situations will arise where promises will be made. Over time as the promises are made your partner will get a sense of whether you are a promise keeper or a promise breaker.
If you are a promise keeper, you are trust worthy; if you break your promises, you can't be trusted.
This is baffling to some. They just don't get what the big deal is. But relationships are built on promises, every level of commitment is built on promises, and marriage is a legally binding contract full of promises. You promise your partner to be faithful (unless you are in an understanding poly-amorous relationship) and you promise to be supportive, you promise to look after the interests of your partner as well as your own, to remember important dates, and to do all the things that they see in other couples and think "I want that for myself."
If you get married, these promises are made in front of a church official or a registrar, friends and family, and for some of you, in front of God; you sign a contract as a legal declaration of your promises to one another.
If you ask someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, there is no contract or ceremony and the promises aren't spoken aloud; but there are unspoken promises, whether you know it or not, that lead to expectations. The only thing that might be said in reference to these unspoken promises, is to negate them; "This doesn't mean we're exclusive."
If you establish a reputation with your partner as a promise breaker, then how can you be trusted with other promises? Your word is dirt, the only way you can prove yourself is through your actions, and you just keep going, breaking promises.
You might think you don't make promises. You might even think you are a "man of your word" and that you "don't make promises you can't keep," (excuse the word "man" there, it's a more common phrase) but what you don't understand is that every time you say you're going to do something, be it housework, waking up at a certain time, or even the almighty bastard words "I'll do it in the morning," you are making a promise. You don't have to say the words "I promise" for it to be a promise. In fact, if people ask you to promise to do stuff like saying you will isn't a promise in itself, you already should know you are a promise breaker.
If your partner doesn't trust you even with stupid little things, it means you break all manner of promises.
You can't keep every promise, sometimes it just isn't possible. But when the excuses start to pile up, you're just making excuses. Sometimes you have to put someone else before yourself. If you promised to do the dishes in the morning, but you wake up feeling like shit; either go to the hospital if it's bad enough, or do the fucking dishes.
If you are a promise breaker, get a hold of yourself. Step up to the plate and keep your damned promises, or you will find yourself loosing the one you love to somebody else who will keep theirs.
Promise keepers, you are awesome. You make your partner feel safe and stress free. Keep it up.